It crossed my mind this morning that most people don’t notice until a personal loss of a loved one or some incident of tragedy to make us realize what a brief trip we have here.
It takes some lessons to realize for many of us that time alone happens whether by choice or circumstance. Life throws us all curves and there’s a big difference between wanting to spend time alone, and having to spend time alone.
I decided that being alone can be beautiful but so is time that I spend with others. I am a social being and love human contact. I love how each and every person has a history and a new story to tell.
I wasn’t surprised the other day when my good friend who is a massage therapist told me that she has actually had women cry who had been on their own for long periods of time and that they were so grateful to be touched and have that human contact. It reminded me that we are all inveterately, undeniably, inherently social beings and human warmth is especially these days a necessity and essentially a part of our core.
I also realized more than ever that there is nothing wrong in having high standards on who I let into my life. It’s a personal statement.. I’m okay alone and I do not need to add anyone these days who is not a good fit.
I’m calling it solo satisfaction..
copyright Es-tee Miller
“Language..has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the world “solitude” to express the glory of being alone.”….. Paul Tillich